Hypnosis – Rescuing you from emotional hijacking


Human beings in common with all mammals share the same five defensive states, evolved over time to help us respond to danger and keep us alive. But what are these five defensive states? And how can they feel like such stressful burdens to us today?

You’re probably familiar with the first two—Fight and Flight—but there are three more that you may not be aware of, even though you may have experienced them:

  1. Fight: Becoming aggressive in the face of a perceived threat (perception is all!)
  2. Flight: The urge to flee a stressful—or seemingly stressful—situation
  3. Freeze: A reaction that doesn’t feel like a reaction at all; not being able to think or move
  4. Submit: Appeasing others when faced with a threatening situation
  5. Attach: Forming unhealthy bonds after perceived situations of stress

Typically, people react in a conditioned way and so one of the above states can become their predominant response.

When our brains react to real threats and perceived threats—they can override our regulated state. And being in hijacked emotional states like these can lead to much unhappiness, frustration, confusion, and exhaustion. Not to mention the effects it can have on our relationships.

With effective hypnotherapy, you can uncover and learn how to rise above the hold each state can have on you, to see things more clearly and to break free of unhelpful and unnecessary conditioned responses such as high anxiety.

If you are interested in finding out more about how hypnotherapy can help rescue you from emotional hijacking, just give me a call 0n 7976 701223  or request a call back.

How My Online Hypnotherapy And Life Coaching Service Works


I have provided services to clients online since 2017, including virtual coaching for individuals, facilitation of global project teams and online hypnotherapy treatments.

Online therapy has been an increasingly popular choice for individuals for some years now, and while online therapy does not work for every client, it works well for most people. Please note that during the Covid-19 lockdown it is the only option available.

So who is online therapy for and not for ?

The following factors can help you to decide if online therapy is right for you.

  •  Online hypnotherapy as been shown to be as effective as face-to-face for many clients, including people suffering from anxiety and depression who may find it difficult to open up in person.
  • You need to have a good broadband connection that can handle video calls + suitable equipment – mainly just a pc/tablet/smartphone with a camera and good audio (earphones or headphones are useful though not essential).
  • You need to have a quiet, calm, private area where you can be comfortable and relax undisturbed for the duration of the session.
  • I am skilled and experienced in delivering therapy online, which includes having an effective contingency plan in place should internet connection be lost during the session.I also provide practical advice to help you prepare well and get most from each online session.
  • Confidentiality, security and privacy is assured.
  • It is more affordable that face-to-face therapy. Online therapists like me may work from home and so avoid paying treatment room hire fees and also save on travel time/costs – and thus can reflect those savings by reducing fees.
  • You save on travel time/costs by having treatment from the comfort of your own home.
  • Honesty is very important in therapy. Whether face to face or online, I cannot help if you hide or omit important details. You need to help me to help you.

For me, whether I see a client face to face or online, what matters is to build rapport, get to the heart of the matter and deliver treatment that enables the client to change  for the better – and to do that as quickly as possible.

If you would like to know more about my online service, feel free to give me a call on 07976 701223.

Study suggests that stress in pregnancy ‘makes child personality disorder more likely’


I came across an interesting  article on the BBC website today about a research study which suggests that the children of women who experience severe stress when pregnant are nearly 10 times more likely to develop a personality disorder by the age of 30.   Even moderate prolonged stress may have an impact on child development and continue after a baby’s birth, the research study said.

The study involved more than 3,600 pregnant women in Finland in 1975 and 1976 who were asked about their stress levels thoughout their pregnancy, and their children were followed up. Of course the study is only indicative and other factors such as upbringing, physical health,  traumatic life events and family break ups could have played a part. It does however seem self evident (to me at least!) that amount of cortisol and other neurochemicals that high stress levels creates would significantly increase the risk of harm to the brain and emotional development of a baby.

So while not conclusive it is a useful warning about the need for pregnant women to be aware of the effects of stress and to seek help as necessary to minimise stress during pregnancy. I shall be interested to see if the publicity this study generates brings an increase in the number of pregnant clients who come to me for help to prevent and manage stress.

 

 

You do have a thinking gut! How gut directed hypnotherapy can help with digestive ailments


For sufferers of IBS, Chrohn’s disease, food allergies and other digestive disorders, new research is demonstrating the ability of integrative mind -body approaches such as gut directed hypnotherapy can provide great benefits.

Modern medicine today is increasingly realizing that different systems of the body are interconnected and cannot be completely understood in isolation. The brain-gut connection is one very important example of this phenomenon. Given the strong mind-body/brain-gut connection, it should come as no surprise that mind-body tools such as meditation, mindfulness, breathing exercises, yoga, and gut-directed hypnotherapy have all been shown to help improve GI symptoms, improve mood, and decrease anxiety. They decrease the body’s stress response by dampening the sympathetic nervous system, enhancing the parasympathetic response, and decreasing inflammation.

To find out more about the following short article is well worth a read – click here

 

 

 

 

 

Hypnosis Myths and Misconceptions – No 5 of 6: what if I have no experience of being hypnotized?


In truth, you have experience of being hypnotized already! For example, whenever you are engrossed in reading a book and don’t hear someone calling your name, or you drive somewhere and don’t remember the route or cut yourself without noticing – these all involve hypnosis to some extent. It usually helps to understand hypnosis when you stop thinking about it as some very different, weird state, and start seeing it is a natural extension of everyday awareness.

Hypnosis Myths and misconceptions – No 4 of 6: Are people who can be hypnotized somehow mentally weak?


No, in fact, more often the opposite is the case! Hypnosis is most accurately described as a state of mental focus, which is not the sort of capability traditionally associated with ‘mental weakness’ (whatever that may be!). Sportspeople at the top of their game often use self- hypnosis to improve their focus and achieve the ideal mental state for training and competing. Are these people ‘mentally weak’?

Hypnosis Myths and misconceptions – No 3 of 6: Am I helpless in hypnosis?


Absolutely not! Because you are still ‘wake’ during hypnosis you can make decisions in the usual way, yet with more flexibility as you are less under the control of your automatic reactions. So if the fire alarm went off, you will still hear it and think ” that is a fire alarm. I need to get out of here now!” Compared to waking up from sleep to a fire alarm it will be much less jarring as you are already conscious.

Hypnosis Myths and misconceptions – No 2 of 6: is hypnosis the same as sleep?


No. Hypnosis is not the same as being asleep. While the term hypnosis comes from the Greek word for sleep (hypnos) you are actually not asleep. You need to be able to listen for hypnosis to work because you need your brain to be processing words and responding to instructions while you relax and go into trance.
 
Some studies suggest that the hypnotic state is similar to the Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep state which is when dreaming occurs (whether you can remember dreams or not!). Others suggest that the hypnotic state is closer to that of Alpha when you have ‘in the zone’ levels of concentration and things just ‘flow’. Alpha is also the relaxed state you enter just before you drop off to sleep.
 
When you are hypnotized, you have an experience in parallel with your conscious awareness. You are fully aware of what is happening and where you are while at the same time you have an internally focused awareness.

Myths and misconceptions about Hypnosis – No 1 of 6: Can only some people be hypnotized?


No. Most people can be hypnotized although some can take longer than others to relax and use hypnosis effectively. There here are a small group of people who may not respond to hypnosis due to their inability to perceive context and implication, which can be an aspect of Asperger’s syndrome.

Once you experience the state of hypnosis you will understand why this is the case. Hypnosis is simply an engaging and deepening of the brain’s natural ability to focus and imagine. And in this relaxed ‘altered’ state of mind, the critical conscious mind can be bypassed to access your subconscious mind. In doing so,  suggestibility increases, such that the suggestions given are accepted as being true and effect beliefs, habits, perceptions and behaviours.

NBC News July 2017 – Tummy Troubles: Hypnosis might be the answer


This article  from the USA, shows that for patients who don’t get relief from medication, their gastroenterologists are turning to psychologists for help. Hypnotherapy can be an effective treatment for heartburn and other stomach conditions. It’s a powerful alternative treatment, backed with plenty of scientific evidence, that is increasingly being offered at the nation’s leading medical centers.

It describes a range of gastrointestinal conditions that have been treated using hypnotherapy including IBS. I have treated several patients with IBS and know that for them it made a massive difference.