SEVEN QUICK FIXES – to clear your head and lift your mood

 

 

  1. Laugh… stand in front of a mirror every morning (and as often as you like through the day) and just start grinning at yourself and then laugh out loud for at least two minutes… laughter is infectious and after a little while it will soon spread… and if it feels ridiculous then it is working! If it helps things along just think of jokes, funny things you have experienced or heard about, even what you would look like if you just could not stop smiling all the time. The brain cannot tell the difference between “forced” and “real” laughter so you get the feel-good chemical release and other benefits that comes from laughing anyway.
  2. And laugh some more…..watch funny programmes on TV, listen to radio comedies, read funny books and comics/magazines (e.g Viz), see movies that make you laugh, go to comedy shows, be with people who are fun to be with… take a light-hearted look at the world… just refuse to tune in to anything that does not amuse and make you smile.
  3. If you are emotionally stuck… (a.) Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth for three minutes, making the out breath slightly longer than the in breath (count to 7 In and to 10 or 11 out). (b.) Ask your unconscious for a solution to, or relief from, your problem, and then move your eyes in large circles, clockwise then counter-clockwise while counting out loud from fifty to one (c.) Shift your position.
  4. If you are depressed … some kinds of depression are related to functional brain asymmetry, meaning the right and left hemispheres are not functioning coherently. Since physical movements on one side of your body activate the opposite side of your brain, add such movements to anything else you are doing to deal with your condition. Here are some suggestions for you… (a.) Throw a tennis ball from hand to hand and gradually widen the gap. Practice doing it with your eyes shut. (b.) March with knees lifted high. Touch opposite hand to opposite knee with each step. (c.) Fold your arms quickly and notice how you do this (right arm first over left or the reverse) …then do it the exactly the opposite. Practice until you can do it as quickly and easily as your normal way and then progress to alternating between each way. (d.) Practice writing with your other hand (in fact practice doing the opposite of anything you normally do with your dominant hand or foot).
  5. To change your mood from down to up: (a.) Simply recall the details of a happy experience in as much detail as possible. (b.) Pay attention to all the sensory details… especially the pictures that come to mind and the sounds, the sensations you experienced, even the tastes and smells of that time… be there again and intensify. Make the picture bigger, more colourful, vibrant and juicy… (c.) When you feel things strongly, “anchor” the response by pinching the web in between your thumb and finger and let those feelings stay strong or get stronger still as you hold it for 15-30 secs. This creates an association in your mind between the sensation of touching that area and the feelings you are experiencing. (d.) If want to instantly access that response again, just trigger that anchor by touching that area. Since we tend to remember sad or depressing experiences when we are down, also practice making a list of positive memories when you are in a good mood, to refer to when you are not.
  6. Build a happy mindset in 30 seconds… just spend 15 seconds twice a day recalling in detail a pleasant experience from the day before. This can give an  instant 15% boost in cheerfulness.
  7. And if you need a quick boost… Sit up. Body posture directly influences mood so sit with your back erect, eyes up and front, head high, and chest pushed out… it instantly lifts your mood and makes you feel more confident.

Article about how trauma has changed many people for the better

Interesting article that is a great reminder of the human capacity for resilience and positive change. It’s about Professor of Pyschology Stephen Joseph’s ‘s new book which reveals research showing that in trauma cases a staggeringly high proportion, almost as much as those who are impacted for the worse, actually benefit from their traumatic experience. Also features a Pyschologist and ex- RUC police officer who lost his arms and a leg in an IRA attack in the 1980s who used this to not only rebuild his life but to fashion an entirely new one. Click here to read the full article i- thriving on ‘post traumatic growth’ sunday times article 15 April 2012

Living without limits

With the forthcoming London Olympics looming large now, I was reminded today about the power, for good and for ill, of your beliefs, whatever you hold to be true.

In the first half of the 20th Century, sports “experts” announced it was impossible for the human body to carry enough energy and maintain the strength to run a mile in under 4 minutes. For years, that pronouncement seemed to be true. Athletes tried, but they never broke the “magic barrier” the experts had set up.

Then, on 6th May, 1954, a British runner, Roger Bannister, took part in a race in Oxford. He was determined to give it the very best he could and he wasn’t prepared to listen to anyone except his own belief that he could be the best.

Famously, he broke the tape and collapsed as the announcer delivered his time to the cheering crowd: 3 minutes 59.4 seconds!

The “unbreakable” record had been broken. At age 25, Roger Bannister had made world history.

What’s fascinating is that within a month, the Australian runner John Landy had broken Bannister’s record. Then, Bannister had the satisfaction of besting Landy at that summer’s British Empire Games in Vancouver. In a race billed as “The Mile of the Century”, both runners beat the four minute time but Bannister came in first at 3 minutes 58.8 seconds to Landy’s 3 minutes 59.6 seconds.

After that, the floodgates opened wide. Six more people broke the world record in the year after these amazing events. More than 300 did in the following years, and the record for running a mile now stands at 3 minutes 43.13 seconds, set by Hicham El Guerrouj in 1999.

Now here’s the thing:

Bannister refused to accept the limiting belief that other athletes and the world’s experts believed: that it was impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes.

Once the experts had been shown that it was possible, the rest of the world followed along …

The problem with limiting beliefs, funnily enough, is they really do limit you! As Henry Ford famously said “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.”

That’s why if you want to go further and do better than those around you, it’s your job to ask yourself challenging questions, push yourself harder – and if your internal dialogue says “I can’t … do this”, realise that those words are only a belief.

So if you do believe that you can be a better you, what’s stopping you from making it so? What beliefs are limiting or sabotaging you, what if you believed differently?

And if you need need some help to identify let go and embrace new ways of thinking, hypnosis is a very effective way of changing beliefs for the better. Using the latest advances in psychology and life coaching, I can help you acquire techniques and skills to set and maintain great goals and to overcome beliefs that in times gone by would have held you back.

And if you don’t believe it is possible to change beliefs or to do so easily, then please do consider the central tenet of this article again. Better still give me a call for the opportunity to prove otherwise!